Leykis 101:
"Rules Girls" Rules for Boys?

by Rich Birkett

 

We've all heard of those "Rules Girls": annoying, desperate women who seem to think following an absurd set of rules will finally lead to wedded bliss, or at least, the perfect relationship. Now comes Leykis 101 graduates: boys (and even some girls) who practice a set of rules that, although very different in most ways from Rules Girls rules, are similar to Rules Girls rules in ways that even its originator, radio talk show host and self-proclaimed Professor Tom Leykis, may never have considered.

How? First, I will try to condense the core ideas of each set of rules:

Rules Girls Rules:
1. Don't call men on the phone.
2. Don't return phone calls to men who leave phone messages.
3. Don't accept a Saturday night date after Thursday, and don't accept a Friday night date after Wednesday.
4. Don't kiss on the first date.
5. Don't have sex until after marriage, or at least, don't have sex until after engaged to be married.

Leykis 101 Rules:
1. Don't compliment women.
2. Don't give women all the attention they crave.
3. Date women with low self-esteem.
4. Don't spend more than $40 on a date.
5. Stop dating women who don't give up or put out sex by the third date.
6. Don't date single mothers, because they are looking for the next stepfather, and they pay more attention to their children than to their boyfriends.
7. Don't live with single mothers, especially in states where judges force live-in boyfriends to pay child support.
8. Don't go to a club where your date is on the band's guest list. She really wants someone in the band instead.
9. Don't get married before 25.
10. Always use a condom. Don't trust women to be solely responsible for contraception or disease prevention.

So, what's so similar about these rules? It's the same old hard-to-get "aloof" strategy that presumes what people really want is what they can't have or can't easily get, and, conversely, people don't want what they can have or can easily get. The problem with the aloof attitude is that, although it may work with some people, for many people, this attitude is often interpreted as: disinterested, indifferent, dispassionate, snobbish, and manipulative. For "appearance challenged" people, this strategy will most likely fail, but at least the ugly get to keep their dignity intact.

The $40 date spending limit could be interpreted as "cheap". Even Leykis concedes this limit is sometimes not practical, like dining at an expensive restaurant. If spending an extra $10 or $20 is such a big deal, perhaps the cheapskate really can't afford to be dating anyway.

Would a "Rules Girl" be interested in a "Leykis 101 Graduate"? Conversely, would a "Leykis 101 Graduate" be interested in a "Rules Girl"? The answer to both questions is a resounding no. Although their elusive and manipulative strategies are similar, their goals are irreconcilably different. According to Leykis: Men want sex. Women want attention, money, commitment and children. Furthermore, manipulative people seek out the easily manipulated, not other manipulative people like themselves.

 

Other Rules Girls and Leykis Graduates Websites:
"Rules Girls" by Peter Kurth peterkurth.com/RULES%20GIRLS.htm